I am in my mid-twenties and still single. Let me tell you, there are several that we’re getting tired of hearing.
- Your time is not God’s time.
Clearly, if we’re a Christian, we know this. That doesn’t make it easier. You also don’t know if it’s actually God’s plan for the poor girl to get married. That’s called false assurance and is bad. There are plenty of single women in the Bible.
- Maybe God just knows you’re not ready to get married yet. Maybe you have more to learn.
Thank you for pointing out that everyone else recognizes that my life is currently a wreck, and it’s not just in my head. Here’s the thing. I know I’m not necessarily ready to get married in the fact that I have nothing to bring to the marriage beside more loans. I also know that the chance of me finding a man who actually wants to marry me after less than a year of dating is slim to none, so that gives me a year to get my life in order before I’m paying for a wedding and now taking care of a second human hopefully followed by more mini-humans.
But, I’ve spent my entire life watching my parents. Whenever one of them had a rough day, as soon as the other got home, they give each other a hug, tell me to shut up and go away for a few minutes so they can talk about their day, my mum would go thunk into my daddy’s chest, and then they would fix it or at the very least be able to hold each other up until they fixed whatever was wrong.
I want to be able to go home to a husband and go thunk into his chest after a long, troublesome day. Or I want a boyfriend I can call after that day who yes, will probably laugh at me, or be playing a computer game while talking to me, but at least he would be mine to call. Then, being a male, he would probably call me back several hours later with ideas after his one track mind has pondered it a bit more.
- You’re young; you’ve got time for a husband and kids.
How do you know? I don’t know the status of my maternal, biological clock, so how on earth do you? How do you know my dreams? Unless you’re in my family or a close friend or somebody I felt like shocking by telling you I want 6 kids, you don’t know. Yeah, I’m not one of those modern, American women who only want 2 kids; I have wanted to have 6 kiddos of my own my entire life! I also don’t want to be pregnant til I’m 40 and then have no chance of seeing my great grandbabies. I want to have at least one year of my marriage of not being pregnant or with mini-mes crawling around. Unless we’re given twins, I’ve already said good-bye to two of my dream babies.
- Keep your standards high!
Well no kidding. If I was willing to lower my standards, they would have been lowered before the 2 youngest of my 6 imaginary babies vanished, and I’d be married by now. Rough years would probably be ahead, but I’d be married.
- Quit looking; when the time is right, he’ll find you.
Mmmm….I’m not so sure the potential husband of mine is not stuck in a treestand somewhere. While I 100% believe that the man is to be the head of the relationship which includes being the one to ask me out – not vice versa regardless of the times and trends – I also think that giving him a little push, like maybe make him a batch of cookies or something, might be necessary. Put the idea in his head.
So, while I know that most people who are already happily in a relationship or just got out of a relationship and don’t sympathize have these 5 common phrases at the ready for those of us who actually want to get married and have kiddos someday, we’re getting kinda tired of hearing them – especially from ourselves as we try to convince ourselves that no, we’re not going to die alone and leave our nephews/nieces as our heirs.